Published On 2/2/2026
A decade ago, I was sitting in an icy conference room in Pasadena, California, alongside a cohort of eager, bright coach trainees. We were there to learn the tools, techniques, and coaching moves that would help our clients.
You can imagine how surprised I was when our coach trainer’s first question was, “Where are you?”
Instantly, the question caught me off guard. I was there, physically, but my mind was somewhere else. I was daydreaming about what they might serve for lunch that day. I was anxious about the e-mails burning a hole in my inbox. I felt confused, maybe even a little annoyed.
I had no idea that this simple question would change the trajectory of my coaching journey forever.